09-01-2015, 20:02
Despite the assertions that rape is rape, it seems obvious to me that rape using violence is different from what Ched Evans did. For violent rapists, power is their aphrodisiac, the more afraid their victim, the happier and more satisfied they are.
Evans' problem seems to be that he hasn't actually got it that sex takes two. Even if his drunken victim had murmured something he took for consent it should have been obvious to him that sex was not only inappropriate, but also that it would be pretty unsatisfying. At best he was masturbating inside another person ........
Unfortunately there are men who never achieve much more than this in their whole lives and I'm sure Ched would not be the only man who would have behaved as he did. The Victorian idea of men "having their way" still survives and women are often turned, or turn themselves, into mere adjuncts to a masturbatory process. Even the goddam law talks about "consent", rather than shared experience. No wonder we end up with such a penis-driven society.
Whether he should be a pariah for life is another matter. And there's also a lot of Americanised crap talked about role models that people repeat parrot-fashion. A bit of me feels sorry for Ched, his girlfirend and her dad who clearly has too much money. But a lot more of me feels sorry for a girl who gets drunk and finds her whole life being forcibly removed.
I'm glad it wasn't Chesterfield who were contemplating signing Ched Evans, but I wish there was a club out there which would say it would sign him on condition it could help him receive psychiatric help, that he would agree to face the girl concerned and would devote himself and some of his salary to helping her re-build the life he destroyed.
Even if his case review finds his conviction to be unsound ....... he and those who supported him did wreck someone's life. Even if he did not commit rape within its legal definition he should volunteer to do everything in his power to mend some of what he's broken. And perhaps he could donate to Rape Crisis centres and even address younger men who might be going out into the world with similar attitudes to women.
He could turn himself back into a man instead of a wanker .......
Evans' problem seems to be that he hasn't actually got it that sex takes two. Even if his drunken victim had murmured something he took for consent it should have been obvious to him that sex was not only inappropriate, but also that it would be pretty unsatisfying. At best he was masturbating inside another person ........
Unfortunately there are men who never achieve much more than this in their whole lives and I'm sure Ched would not be the only man who would have behaved as he did. The Victorian idea of men "having their way" still survives and women are often turned, or turn themselves, into mere adjuncts to a masturbatory process. Even the goddam law talks about "consent", rather than shared experience. No wonder we end up with such a penis-driven society.
Whether he should be a pariah for life is another matter. And there's also a lot of Americanised crap talked about role models that people repeat parrot-fashion. A bit of me feels sorry for Ched, his girlfirend and her dad who clearly has too much money. But a lot more of me feels sorry for a girl who gets drunk and finds her whole life being forcibly removed.
I'm glad it wasn't Chesterfield who were contemplating signing Ched Evans, but I wish there was a club out there which would say it would sign him on condition it could help him receive psychiatric help, that he would agree to face the girl concerned and would devote himself and some of his salary to helping her re-build the life he destroyed.
Even if his case review finds his conviction to be unsound ....... he and those who supported him did wreck someone's life. Even if he did not commit rape within its legal definition he should volunteer to do everything in his power to mend some of what he's broken. And perhaps he could donate to Rape Crisis centres and even address younger men who might be going out into the world with similar attitudes to women.
He could turn himself back into a man instead of a wanker .......