20-10-2017, 18:44
Strange life .... my partner spent time in South Africa (and Kenya) working in theatres.
I can cope when I can disagree sensibly with people, or try maybe to reassure Pooch that I don't think Islam has anybody on his specific case and that nearly all muslims just want to live a comfortable life, love and be loved, avoid hatred and being hated ....
But when people think that openly racist and very lame jokes are just dressing room banter, because sometimes black players will often either collude with them, or keep quiet ....... I wonder how a gay player could cope and what he might be coping with. It's obvious to everyone when there are black people in the team - they can see it. But what sort of banter will gays face? If people will openly make racist jokes to black people what will they be saying when one of their team is a closeted gay? How brave is a player going to have to be to turn up at a team night out with his boyfriend?
It just makes me feel dispirited is all. For the future of humanity. I now just tell people I'm gay. They must wonder why's he telling us that, we didn't say we're straight ........... and it's so they know so they don't come up with the range of accidentally stupid stuff that afflicts conversations. I don't want them to be walking on eggshells, but equally I don't want them to start burying an IED in full view, expecting to receive my approval.
Being alive and a human bean is very odd. Good journey home Dancing.
I half wish Eni Aluko, who I was writing about on Bob's, had returned Sampson's Ebola remark with, "It's okay Mark my family have agreed to delay the Female Genital Mutilations till the dressing room straight after the match ....." but it would only have opened the gates to a flood of this bile, because even though she's obviously cleverer than him, he had the power.
I'm a reader of Bob's now. Albert has retired. He won't be sliding in.
I can cope when I can disagree sensibly with people, or try maybe to reassure Pooch that I don't think Islam has anybody on his specific case and that nearly all muslims just want to live a comfortable life, love and be loved, avoid hatred and being hated ....
But when people think that openly racist and very lame jokes are just dressing room banter, because sometimes black players will often either collude with them, or keep quiet ....... I wonder how a gay player could cope and what he might be coping with. It's obvious to everyone when there are black people in the team - they can see it. But what sort of banter will gays face? If people will openly make racist jokes to black people what will they be saying when one of their team is a closeted gay? How brave is a player going to have to be to turn up at a team night out with his boyfriend?
It just makes me feel dispirited is all. For the future of humanity. I now just tell people I'm gay. They must wonder why's he telling us that, we didn't say we're straight ........... and it's so they know so they don't come up with the range of accidentally stupid stuff that afflicts conversations. I don't want them to be walking on eggshells, but equally I don't want them to start burying an IED in full view, expecting to receive my approval.
Being alive and a human bean is very odd. Good journey home Dancing.
I half wish Eni Aluko, who I was writing about on Bob's, had returned Sampson's Ebola remark with, "It's okay Mark my family have agreed to delay the Female Genital Mutilations till the dressing room straight after the match ....." but it would only have opened the gates to a flood of this bile, because even though she's obviously cleverer than him, he had the power.
I'm a reader of Bob's now. Albert has retired. He won't be sliding in.